In academia we often talk about the “two body problem”. By that I mean the difficulty of finding two academic jobs in one place, often causing one partner to make sacrifices in their career.
That sucks and I’m sorry.
But I think it’s important, especially when we’re talking about opportunities for women and minorities, to recognize that academia is hard for everyone. And being single and moving to a new place (which academia almost constantly requires), you lack the support system that a partner provides. Additionally, living in remote college towns and seeking a partner is difficult to impossible. This is especially true for women and the LGBT community and exacerbated as we get older.
This “one body problem” is summed up and explained nicely in this post over on EcoEvo.